Is it OK to ask for an expensive gift?
My boyfriend of four months asked me whether I wanted to let him pick out my Christmas gift or whether I wanted to pick it out myself. I told him I trusted his taste and that he should get me whatever he wants. But the truth is, I'm really hoping that he'll get me jewellery. I think it's what boyfriends should get their girlfriends for Christmas. But I'm not sure if he thinks the same way. But how could I tell him that I want jewels? It's not the cheapest kind of gift. How can I drop subtle hints without seeming crass?
Laura
Whoops! You really shouldn't have told him you trust his taste if you don't, but now that you have, it would be gracious to accept his choice totally, even if that means something you wouldn't choose for yourself. Psychologically speaking, it's very unfair to hint with men, because they're not on the same intuitive level that we women are, and they just feel confused and manipulated.
Since this is a relatively new relationship, it's not really appropriate to expect costly jewels. You might want to reflect on what your expectations of this fellow are and whether they're realistic.
Why don't you give the guy a break and see what happens? You might be pleasantly surprised. Remember that meaningful relationships are not about sparkly jewellery, but the free gifts of love.
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